Rant.

   I think that boys lately think they can do anything and everything to a girl/girls and just get away with it, that if not that girl, then the next one will still end up wanting them or pining over them, or making excuses for them. I myself have been in that situation, and it is embarrassing looking back on it and realizing just how many excuses I made for one boy, and why didn't any of my friends smack my head against a wall and yell at me to grow up and be done! Right now I'm watching a situation unfold where a guy is literally saying the exact same things to 2 different girls, and both girls know now, and both girls threaten to be done, and threaten to end it, and say they can't do it anymore, but at the end of the day, they're always still there, while they know that he is telling both of them I love you, and you're perfect, and amazing, giving both of them sweatshirts, and both of them flowers! This is an example of why guys keep getting away with stuff like this, the girl/girls are almost always still there in the end, no matter how much emotional manipulation, abuse, lies, etc. they have to endure.

It's like the ever growing popular mind set of teaching your boys (and girls) not rape, instead of teaching your girls (and boys) how to prevent it. When are we going to start teaching our boys that it is important not to emotionally rape either? At 16 years old why is this boy thinking it is okay to screw with not one, but two girls emotional well being. Is it fun? Is this what his home taught him to do? I don't know how far he has gone with either of these girls, but I can guarantee it is more than just a little kiss on the lips. Theses girls are going to have to live with the emotional bomb hole that this kid is leaving within them for years and years to come.

When they're 25 years old and wondering why they're sticking around with their boyfriend who has a couple girls on the sides, they're going to look back and it is going to be a trend. At 15 years old a boy taught me that it was "normal" to have a guy look elsewhere for the same things they are giving him, and it is "normal" for them to stick around and deal with it, because that is just how it is anymore.

Why do we let our boys grow up doing this? Why do we let our girls grow up enduring this? Why don't we start teaching our sons that it is just as important to respect a girls emotions, and mental wellbeing, as it is to respect their body? Where is the flaw in our society that it is teaching girls and boys that behavior like this is okay?

When girls have celebrities to look up to who spend their days and nights partying with multiple women, or men, when people like Rihanna go back to a man who beat the crap out of her, when Hilary Clinton stays with her husband after he cheats on her, when Anthony Weiner's wife stands strong by her man, it is not teaching young girls about commitment, it is teaching young girls and boys that it is okay to engage in these types of behavior because if the girl or woman you are currently with doesn't stand by you, then the next one will, or the first one will come back to you. And these people still hold positions of popularity and power.

How are we supposed to teach our girls to have more self respect than the women who are prevalent in todays society and walk away? How are we supposed to teach our boys that, while men who are successful and prominent take their women and jerk them around, it is important to treat the ones they come in contact with, with respect?